Comment on casual sex

"I'm just fine with casual sex - I see no reason for "deep" or "meaningful" things in an act that's purely biological."


The magic word is indeed "meaningful". In my opinion there's more to life and to human interaction, than just the biological stuff. If there isn't, then apparently it's not for me.

To me sex is about intimacy which is a deep level connection to another person, it's a physical manifestation of trust and acceptance. I see how it can be a fix to an urge to some people due to the chemical reward for trying to continue life by procreating. But there has to be more to it: I mean why aren't I functioning like a mindless machine just trying to get laid? Why am I aware of this? Why am I experiencing everything that I am experiencing?

Don't get me wrong I "know" there is no point in life per se, the point is life itself, but by saying that, it definitely isn't meaningless. I have a limited amount of minutes in my life, so in my opinion there's no point using them in meaningless stuff(e.g. casual sex) I mean, if it's meaningless then why would I bother? If there's nothing in it for me, then why do it? Quality over quantity, choosing otherwise is a folly that women [in my life] seem to make over and over again: will you have 10 000 one-day relationships, or one 10 000 day long relationship? At the first glance it seems that you'll get it all, if you chose to have 10 000 relationships, so much friends, sex, acceptance, attention or whatever.. but after about 30 years you have no one to trust, if you chose the first one; No one cares about you. But you can trust an old friend that you have known for about 30 years. On the other hand we all [men hurt by women] know that meaningful relationships don't actually exist, so there's no point chasing that either, so what's left is living a life that has meaning to yourself, in a way date yourself. Not giving away attention and effort to someone else. But if that leads to your way of life (I actually can see how it does) then so be it. If someday casualness is meaningful to me then I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.