People kinda have this weird tendency to think that they own you, like you answer to them and are accountable to them, don't they? Like you are somehow less than them, and you should do things that benefit them instead of yourself.. You should be "unselfish" because it's beneficial to them, and that's the reason they demand it;
"Do stuff for me, you horrible selfish person."
"You should use your life to make mine better, because my life is more important to me than yours" (not realizing the other person can prefer their own life over others' too)
By definition "selfishness" is something other people don't like, because they can't get anything out of it, thus are "missing out", i.e. there's nothing to like; Unless, of course, it's their own selfishness, which can manifest as a demand for other people to be less selfish.
I used to think that selfishness, and self-centeredness is bad. Nowadays it seems like it's about getting joy out of things that you personally prefer and that even benefit you, but cannot be utilized as much by others (which is why they shame and label you: you are not useful to them, like in their minds you somehow should be.)
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