On the ostracization and demonization of Incels

I see people all around distancing themselves from Incels and bashing them.

"Incels are nothing like MGTOW"
I don't think those are mutually exclusive. I think there is overlapping and causality in both directions (And no, this not an insult, you might become "sexually undesirable" if your own way is to become a total geek for example..)

"Incels are hostile"
Are they? All of them? Then why aren't they raping people in droves? I mean that would be a very innate act of hostility for them (with the whole celibacy thing), that is if hostility really was an inherent trait for an Incel and they are a group they themselves identify with. #NotAll

I think one of the traits that make them Incels is not having the heart to be an asshole to other people. In my opinion the lashing out you might witness from Incels equates to the MGTOW's "redpill-rage" i.e. the second step of grief which is: Anger.
Some people can deal with it by talking to friends, writing a diary or a blog, or making videos on youtube, others might drive a van into a crowd of people. The last one is for people with too much bottled up anger and no proper and efficient outlet for it.

Demonizing and ostracizing people is effectively limiting the outlets, thus allowing the build up of the charge that will be violently released. It's like an electric charge: once the voltage (pressure) is high enough to overcome the resistance of air (in this case the personal moral barriers and the fear of consequences) the whole potential will discharge to closest and easiest target with full force (i.e. physical violence against innocent people). Then the potential difference is leveled, the charge has been transferred, "Now you feel the pain I felt for years in one instance."

For all the angry Incels: If you are having violent thoughts because of emotional pain, lift weights, run, buy boxing gloves and punch a bag or a concrete wall with them, channel that anger constructively and get fit as a reward in addition to getting the bad feelings out. And who knows, maybe that might yield other rewards as well;) If not, then who cares, you still get the bad stuff out.
= You're feeling bad i.e you have bad feelings. And you don't want to bad feelings, so don't keep those feelings in if you don't like them. Get those out, but do not transfer them to other people, just wear those feelings out by channeling them. That anger/hate inside you is potential energy, don't waste it, it's not "bad" per se, only the way you use it can define it as such.

PS. All this is something that should be considered with the all man-hate, shaming towards men, toxic-masculinity etc stuff that has been going around lately.