Mixed stuff about marriage and relationships from the internet

"I don't need anyone"
Really? At all? Then why did you announce it online?

Anyway, jokes aside: I think you need someone, or at least you want someone, but there just isn't anyone worthy. Because the worth they expect from you negates the worth you expect from them = there is no one on this Earth who shares your values, thus there is no one to share this life with.

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Person 1: "Sorry, I don't like marriage or kids and it is possible to be happy! I get to do what I want when I want how I want to do it! :) Knew wife/kids weren't for me at a young age and I don't care how much fearmongering you throw my way (you will be poor,you will be lonely,nobody will want you, you will die alone in a hospice) don't care. Been on the planet for 42 years and haven't met the winner...neither have my single male friends..if you have people trying to shame you for not getting married/having kids they are DESPERATELY TRYING TO JUSTIFY THEIR BAD CHOICES and are secretly jealous of your freedom! ESPECIALLY THE MALES."

Person 2: "Person 1, your life has no meaning"

Person 2, To whom? Who defines that? You? But isn't it his life, so doesn't he get to define it? The only thing that matters is that does his life have any meaning to him, and that is something only he himself can decide, not you or me.

Sure you can say his life has no meaning - to you.. Which tells everything that needs be known.

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Whatever she can do single is what she can do in a marriage, there is nothing keep it in check. There is nothing to make it a commitment on her part. Marriage only limits and restricts men, that's all it does. There is no point tying the knot, if one or both parties can opt out whenever they want, which is what they can do without a marriage. There is nothing to gain (for a man) in a marriage. Why make the deal, why not continue the relationship without making it official, without a contract, since the contract yields no benefits?

And when you think about that, you might want to ask why would she want to marry? What does she get from a marriage that isn't somehow available in a normal non-married relationship? Piece of mind perhaps or something along those lines? Well, how is that guaranteed, how is that enforced so she gets it in the way that isn't present in a non-married relationship? Why does she need it, isn't the relationship proof enough? Doesn't the relationship exist because both parties want it?

So it doesn't need any enforcement, unless one wants to force the other to stay against his/her will. And why would anyone want that? Is there something the other person isn't telling? Is the mask getting heavy? Or do you want a legally guaranteed safety net and provision from another person so you don't have consider that person's feelings like you would have to in a dating relationship? Is it about malicious power over another person?

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"MGTOW has always been going on! Married men, men in relationships, all they ever wanted was for everything to go their way."
Yes, it's their life, men are people too, with their own goals, desires, likes and wants. So of course they want their life to go the way they want. They can have their demands and expectations too, if those are unreasonably high, it's their own loss. Don't date men, if you don't like them.

"This 'hostile system' you speak of was created to protect women from men getting them pregnant, loaded up with babies to care for, then the men running off with their secretaries / mistresses."

Sure things were put into place so men wouldn't run off or whatever, but no one should be forced to be with anyone. And you really can't force it, you can't force people to like you. Because if you put laws in place to force people to stay in marriage, they won't get married. 

No one is obliged to like you / to be with you.

A man stays with you if you deserve it, if you nag and treat them like lesser beings or your personal servants, they'll leave.
I bet you don't scream at random people on the streets and hold them accountable to you, I bet you don't expect them to do stuff for you, do you? You don't scream at people if you have known them for a week do you? I bet you don't do it after a month either..
My point is: at what point do you think it is OK to start treating another human being like that. i.e. if you don't treat men like real people, they'll leave.

No one should be forced to be with anyone, if they don't want to. People will stay with you if you are worth it, there's no way around it: it's just a matter of what is considered as worth; if the secretary / mistress is better (e.g. actually smiles once in a while and seems to enjoy living) then no wonder they run off. = People will be with you, if you have a positive effect on their lives. No one wants to make their life worse.
Don't start a relationship with an irresponsible and shallow person, and have something else to offer than a negative/toxic attitude and maybe someone will stay with you, just because he enjoys your company, sense of humor and personality instead of being forced to it.

Ask yourself: would you date yourself? Are you really that fun to be around with? Life is pretty sad, depressing and stressful as it is, would you yourself add a grumpy and whining person to it that you can't escape from even in your own home; I bet you wouldn't date a man with a negative, demanding and demeaning attitude, so don't expect men to date negative, demanding and demeaning women either.

Sure women can demand and expect whatever they want, just like men can, but people have the right to choose if they want to meet those demands and expectations.

If having a relationship with a man is too much of a trouble in your opinion, then your answer is cut out for you. All there is left to do is to accept it.